Any advice for my 99 year old grandma? (death bed?)

My 99 year old grandma has been relatively healthy and disease free her whole life but just due to natural old age, she has been bed ridden for the last 15 years (unable to walk so she stays in bed all day night). Her mind is very sharp and clear but her body is just unable to keep up. She hasn't had to stay in the hospital. She just stays at home in her bed (lives with her first son's family).

She will often have a couple times a year her ups and downs where it seems like she might be going but always got better again. This time though, it seems like it could be it. She hasn't been able to eat for the past week and she's only been able to take very small sips of water fed to her by spoon. She says she doesn't want anything to eat (shakes her head) because it upsets her stomach (stomach pain) and it pains a lot to swallow...something about her mouth or tongue is going. She's unable to speak now but she can fully understand and hear what we say to her.


If she is only going to sip small spoons of water a day and nothing else, even a young and healthy human would eventually die due to lack of nutrition/energy. She's been hanging on for the last 7-9 days like this and I kept asking family couldn't we just give her some nutrients intravenously? Isn't there a way to feed her nutrients either by injection or through liquid that has more nutrition than just water?


They said something about her her vein is too small doctors would not be able to find it and inject anything. Is this true? Is there really no way to feed her some nutrients to give her body a chance to recover or get better? She seems like she is only dying because she simply isn't eating anything. Any advice would be helpful!

Don't take medical advice from anyone who is not a medical professional. Ask a doctor.

This is not a correct forum to ask such questions. Just consult with other doctors or try other Health related forums.

I hope she will recover soon.

Agreed, not the place idt - maybe try quora though

Man what is wrong with you - why are you posting this on here

From personal experience, with age yes veins do become too fragile and chances of their collapsing are too high in case of IV lines. However do not trust hearsay, or even the advice of relatives. Consult a doctor ASAP, arrange for 1 to come and see your grandma personally. It might cause some friction in your family (especially if others feel you do not trust their word, or are being too pushy) however it will help you feel you did all you can.

And you never know, some doctor might be able to work out something to help her. Just keep faith and take action. I say this from personal experience again, do everything you can now, later there are only 'Ifs and regrets'.

im sory to say this but she had a dream of being called by her friend or relatives who had been die lately . the dead people just call her and she dont want to tell you because it is told by the dead that this is secret for dead community

my nan was 98 and had the same problam , in the end she was rushed to hospital and put on a fluid drip and a pipe in here nose .

eventually my nan died but that what happen my end many years ago.

unfortuntly my nan died in days , my nan was very stubburn wouldnt go hospital , so we had nurse and doctors in untill they said she has to go as all her internal organs was failing.

your need to consult a doctor.

i am so sorry this has happen , hope she get well very soon .

god bless love from me and family.

miss my nan but i got really good memories ...

life is defently chalanging , ups and downs

Take her to the hospital now ffs ofc she would dream her dead friends would be calling her or whatever if she hasn't eaten anything for over a week.

She does not need an advice, you need one: consult a doctor.

Try to give her quality moment´s to, for example, read her favorite novels etc.

9 days without taking an action !

My grandma is almost 100. We don't know her correct age. Even she doesn't know. But, she is close to 100.

She doesn't stay with us but at my native place. She goes through similar phase as your grandma and she miraculously survives every time by God's grace. And, she is not bed-ridden..just super slow at everything as age would have it.

Sorry to hear about your issue with your grandma but you do realize this is an SEO and affiliate marketing forum? There are loads of medical health boards and medical forums online where you should have posted this type of question. You can even pay to chat with a doctor online regarding your issue. This is probably the most irrelevant forum you could have posted such a topic to.

OP

Pack yourself a bag with toiletries, change of clothes, get a sleeping bag and go spend the rest of her days at her bedside.

Sit and talk to her, hold her hand, let her hear your voice, let her feel you touching her hand. She'll still know you're there.

You'll miss her when she's gone, so make the most of the time she has left.

Don't try medicating or feeding her without speaking to a Dr.

youbike said:

im sory to say this but she had a dream of being called by her friend or relatives who had been die lately . the dead people just call her and she dont want to tell you because it is told by the dead that this is secret for dead community

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you watch too much movies

MisterF said:

OP

Pack yourself a bag with toiletries, change of clothes, get a sleeping bag and go spend the rest of her days at her bedside.

Sit and talk to her, hold her hand, let her hear your voice, let her feel you touching her hand. She'll still know you're there.

You'll miss her when she's gone, so make the most of the time she has left.

Don't try medicating or feeding her without speaking to a Dr.

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Take this advice man MisterF said it all

I appreciate everyone's replies. Yes, obviously I am not going to just do whatever anyone here says. I just wanted to ask and see what kind of advice I could get and just take it into consideration. Yeah, haha, it's a little weird that I would ask a question like this in a blackhat forum but hey, you never know who might be here. People can surprise you.

Thanks for the replies. It's something everyone has or will experience eventually. I actually feel blessed to have a grandma that lived 99 years old. Not many go that long. Also, she's surrounded by a lot of family (her children, her grandchildren, their in-laws, etc) so she's going out peacefully with a lot of people by her side. But for most of us who now grow up with no siblings or maybe just 1 or 2 and some of us have no children, could one day be in our death bed with literally no family left to be your side and comfort you. I consider her much luckier.

oatmeal said:

I appreciate everyone's replies. Yes, obviously I am not going to just do whatever anyone here says. I just wanted to ask and see what kind of advice I could get and just take it into consideration. Yeah, haha, it's a little weird that I would ask a question like this in a blackhat forum but hey, you never know who might be here. People can surprise you.

Thanks for the replies. It's something everyone has or will experience eventually. I actually feel blessed to have a grandma that lived 99 years old. Not many go that long. Also, she's surrounded by a lot of family (her children, her grandchildren, their in-laws, etc) so she's going out peacefully with a lot of people by her side. But for most of us who now grow up with no siblings or maybe just 1 or 2 and some of us have no children, could one day be in our death bed with literally no family left to be your side and comfort you. I consider her much luckier.

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Keep the BHW forum open 24x7, and mingle with the crowd here if you feel fear of the unknown, and you will never be alone, and you'll always feel the warmth of dear ones, ...btw, many of us MUST have reached Heaven too, because they never had taken any "wrong" actions (scams...) anyways, so you'll be always at home, whether you're here or there -- or anywhere in between!

P.S.:
Btw give me hello and respect to your granny maa... she will cross the magic figure in style and best health, no doubt about it! Cheer up -- this is to her!

Med Faker said:

you watch too much movies

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a big no no , dear !!! a lot of event like that in my town ... wait about 1 week to 2 week , you 'll see ... if she survive after that time that mean she did not reply a call from dead community and the result is she will extend her life more and more