According to you what does selfish mean exactly ?

420lounge · Monday at 8:12 AM

"You are being selfish."

It's a word we hear all the time, but the more I think about it, the more I wonder if everyone means the same thing when they use it.

Is selfishness putting yourself first?

Or is it only selfish when your actions negatively affect other people?

For example, some people call it selfish to prioritize your own goals, protect your time, say "no" more often, or focus on your mental health. Others would argue that's not selfish at all—it's self-respect.

Then there are situations where people constantly sacrifice their own happiness for others and end up exhausted, only to realize they never took care of themselves.

So where do you draw the line?

At what point does self-care become selfishness?

And do you think being a little selfish is actually necessary to succeed in life?

Curious to hear different perspectives, because I have a feeling everyone defines this word differently.

RMX · Monday at 9:10 AM

selfcare defines selfish because they always keep themself as 1st priority and never think about anyone but when you expect things from other every after being 100% selfish that is not acceptable.

ads studio · Monday at 9:11 AM

i prefer to be selfish than to be the nice guy because people can always replace you or find solution but when it comes to you having problem they tend to tell story even if they can help that is why i will always come first

420lounge · Monday at 9:14 AM

RMX said:
selfcare defines selfish because they always keep themself as 1st priority and never think about anyone but when you expect things from other every after being 100% selfish that is not acceptable.

Interesting i would tell when you want to be selfish think about you expense for yourself any expect people to share their things.

420lounge · Monday at 9:14 AM

ads studio said:
i prefer to be selfish than to be the nice guy because people can always replace you or find solution but when it comes to you having problem they tend to tell story even if they can help that is why i will always come first

Being for ourself is really accepted but what if situations come ?

ads studio · Monday at 9:17 AM

420lounge said:
Being for ourself is really accepted but what if situations come ?

we human are strong and can face situations better, i believe we can all handle it well

Echos · Monday at 9:29 AM

420lounge said:
You are being selfish."

Self care isn't a crime.

saferidge · Tuesday at 6:50 AM

To me, being selfish means thinking that it has to be your way, your timeline, your plans, and your needs that matter. It’s an inability or unwillingness to consider other people’s perspectives, needs, or circumstances.

nakamura · Tuesday at 7:07 AM

big difference between being selfish and selfcare.

selfish is when you put your own interest above everyone elses interest, even if it hurts others.

btw. the word selfish can also be used as a weapon. this is why most of the time i believe if you really wanna pull something off and want to be successful, the only way you can do it is either alone or with someone who has the same goal.

example, if you stuck in your room and work on your internet business for 12 hours per day, rejecting your parents, gf, friends, etc. they will sooner or later call you selfish.

if your circle doesnt encourage you, its your cage. you must get rid of everyone who is pulling you down. first they are laughing, then they are hating.

in the end, everyone has to decide for themselves. i lost 90% of my friends, broke up with gfs etc. because i worked like a maniac and then travelled around the world etc.

420lounge · Tuesday at 7:31 AM

saferidge said:
To me, being selfish means thinking that it has to be your way, your timeline, your plans, and your needs that matter. It’s an inability or unwillingness to consider other people’s perspectives, needs, or circumstances.

Yup but do you think should we be selfish ? All time ? Or At times ?

KoD- · Tuesday at 11:25 AM

I think some times we became selfish , human nature
self care is most priority one

Reds100 · Tuesday at 11:51 AM

Putting yourself first is not selfish at all as long as you consider how your actions effects others. Being Selfish is just when someone disregards other people to benefit themselves.

Example putting yourself first say in a contest is not being selfish is it? but if you where to walk over dying bodies on the ground to win when you could of stopped to help is being selfish. Take that person in the news lately that shit their pants in the sports competition. It was selfish because she should stepped off instead of dirtying up the course for other patrons, because she didn't then she also got an unfair advantage and overall it was very selfish.

420lounge · Tuesday at 12:25 PM

nakamura said:
big difference between being selfish and selfcare.

selfish is when you put your own interest above everyone elses interest, even if it hurts others.

btw. the word selfish can also be used as a weapon. this is why most of the time i believe if you really wanna pull something off and want to be successful, the only way you can do it is either alone or with someone who has the same goal.

example, if you stuck in your room and work on your internet business for 12 hours per day, rejecting your parents, gf, friends, etc. they will sooner or later call you selfish.

if your circle doesnt encourage you, its your cage. you must get rid of everyone who is pulling you down. first they are laughing, then they are hating.

in the end, everyone has to decide for themselves. i lost 90% of my friends, broke up with gfs etc. because i worked like a maniac and then travelled around the world etc.

Thats a kind of motivation we need to be build at the same time we need to take care of our surroundings too.

420lounge · Thursday at 12:12 PM

Echos said:
Self care isn't a crime.

Thats true. Hahhaahahaha

HustleTong · Thursday at 12:52 PM

There's nothing wrong with being selfish with your time

conolly34 · Thursday at 2:20 PM

Reds100 said:
Putting yourself first is not selfish at all as long as you consider how your actions effects others. Being Selfish is just when someone disregards other people to benefit themselves.

Example putting yourself first say in a contest is not being selfish is it? but if you where to walk over dying bodies on the ground to win when you could of stopped to help is being selfish. Take that person in the news lately that shit their pants in the sports competition. It was selfish because she should stepped off instead of dirtying up the course for other patrons, because she didn't then she also got an unfair advantage and overall it was very selfish.

Yes, I feel there is a distinction between self-centerrdness and neglecting everyone else. Context plays an important role, particularly if what you do directly impacts others.

Baby Boss · Thursday at 4:17 PM

I think self-care is about protecting yourself, while selfishness is ignoring others for your own benefit. Saying no or putting yourself first isn’t always selfish. Sometimes you just need to save your own battery before helping everyone else

BM AGENCY · Thursday at 4:23 PM

Being selfish simply means that everything, every issue, and everyone must revolve around you.

GroByTech · Thursday at 4:25 PM

If your “self-care” keeps making life harder for everyone around you, maybe it’s just selfishness

poorLarperKirk · Thursday at 4:26 PM

in ts world, who aren't selfish?

According to you what does selfish mean exactly ?

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