it's not that easy to get a date like you say.
most times they reject you and you end up being mindfucked.
the only way around that is to go and play the blackhat manipulation game of giving them a good time and ghosting them which makes them want you.
this method works but thing is, it's just toomuch work.
sometimes i lose patience and can't continue this method and you just want to break out to them and show them interest.
but the regular being nice guy thing always gets you friendzoned.
the women of the modern age age chased by many men, so for them to like you, you have to be exceptional.
the time u invest usually goes waste.
they are mostly just manipulators to me.
the girls that you are talking about who are sweet and nice and who has an easy chance of falling for u by being sweet are rare
For a start, all of the red pill shit out there has some validity and is interesting to read/watch. It's along the same lines of what you're saying.
You don't have to be an exceptional man at all - you need to stop overthinking. (Most) chicks like guys who are chilled and easy to be around and who have confidence.
They don't like guys who are clearly overthinking every single interaction, and it's not their fault they react to overly-serious guys this way, it's in their genetics. They're naturally on a lower vibration relating to emotional things, pleasurable things, their dreams, physical things.
Also, keep the fuck away from any of that pickup artist shit - it's toxic and makes guys think like robots. You have to channel the person inside you when you interact with women (and men) and be yourself, whether that's something people like or they don't like.
Girls and guys have a few tricks at their disposal to up their attractiveness (obviously).. girls can tone up, focus on hair and makeup, dress well, or even dress more sexily.
Guys can get a leg up by doing some gym and building up - which also boosts confidence enormously. Also the secret weapon that guys have no matter how they look is humour and charisma. I've know guys that are slightly overweight, not typically attractive, really nothing special physically get with tonnes of girls because their personality is so strong.
What does that look like? Fun to be around all the time, always supportive of other people in conversations, internally confident, always up for having some carefree fun. Those kinds of guys are loved by their mates and by women.
Also resilience is very important mate. You can't get hung up on girls rejecting you.. it needs to be something you don't emotionally get attached to. Learn to instantly disconnect from the event totally when that happens and forget about it.. it's a tiny speck in your whole life, who gives a fuck.
If women reject you or don't treat you well isn't not because all women are cunts or because you're inherently not attractive, it's an indication that you need to adapt how you're interacting with girls, but more importantly, you need to do things to make yourself feel good about yourself first.
Gym is a killer of course, but then there's also starting a life-changing project that's bigger than yourself. When you work on something big, you pull people into your orbit, you're not trying to get into theirs. Guys mistake money for being the thing chicks are attracted to when they go for rich guys - it's not, it's significance by proxy and the potential for a more fulfilling life. Be someone worth being attracted to and chicks will be attracted to you.
All guys have a value offering. All chicks have a value offering. A lot of guys in the red pill/pickup artist scene all expect to keep their value offering the same (the same reasons they're paying for pickup artist courses in the first place - different forms of unattractiveness) and then learn a few tricks in order to game the system and fuck girls.
The better way of doing it is holistically improve your life
from your perspective first, then naturally the improvements to yourself that you're making will inherently become attractive to women.
I can tell you for a fact - being with a great girl longterm pisses and shits all over 100 different fucks.
If all of this fails, just start going to raves or clubs - again probably a bit of gym wouldn't hurt. It's a trillion times easier meeting girls when everyone's a bit fucked up. You might have to fish through a few dozen to find a really good one, but they're there mate.