MrRandQm
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And then I started IM and I could work from home. Didn't have to deal with anything anymore but grinding to make money and live comfortable one day on my own terms
Im a complete loser
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penblock
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Hi jamiejayden,
Here is an exercise that worked wonders for me and for a lot of people (read You Can Heal Your Life by Louise L.Hay). Every morning and night, sit in front of the mirror and tell yourself "i love you". Say all the nice things to yourself that you want people to tell you. 5 minutes each session should be enough. Now this will be a drag at first... but in time, you will internalize it. And that's when the magic happens... suddenly you will love life! And that's all that matters to be happy.
Once you have learned to love yourself, sit yourself down with a pen and a notebook. Imagine the best life that you want. Only the best! Write it down and keep it with you. Develop discipline and pursue the life that you just wrote down. Even before to get there, i promise you, your life would be much better than it is now.
People are usually sad and depressed because they can't fill the void inside of them. Fill that up with purpose. Find your passion and pursue it relentlessly until you get it.
You are still young. There is so much ahead of you. Don't give up just yet. Work on yourself. You were here for a reason. Take care!
Here is an exercise that worked wonders for me and for a lot of people (read You Can Heal Your Life by Louise L.Hay). Every morning and night, sit in front of the mirror and tell yourself "i love you". Say all the nice things to yourself that you want people to tell you. 5 minutes each session should be enough. Now this will be a drag at first... but in time, you will internalize it. And that's when the magic happens... suddenly you will love life! And that's all that matters to be happy.
Once you have learned to love yourself, sit yourself down with a pen and a notebook. Imagine the best life that you want. Only the best! Write it down and keep it with you. Develop discipline and pursue the life that you just wrote down. Even before to get there, i promise you, your life would be much better than it is now.
People are usually sad and depressed because they can't fill the void inside of them. Fill that up with purpose. Find your passion and pursue it relentlessly until you get it.
You are still young. There is so much ahead of you. Don't give up just yet. Work on yourself. You were here for a reason. Take care!
JamaicanMoose
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When I'm feeling down, I do a Thought Record. It surprisingly helps a lot... you can find the template here: https://www.iwanttochangemylife.org/tools/cbt-worksheet-thought-record.htm
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Lol. That’s one hell of an experience.
Closest point of contact from The Netherlands, Belgium and Germany would be in Lille.
Avoid Paris, as you will get there eventually, or march on to Marseille and spend a week there before you get processed.
Back then there where a lot of English joining, mostly former Paratroopers and an assortment of Poles (Lille).
If you could I would definitely recommend it.
jazzc
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You've been through it? Tell us more.
I've a few friends who served there, some interesting characters too.
Those who think it's like the old Beau Geste are mistaken though, there's a good book by Simon Murray who gives a better account of life in there.
jazzc
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There are no violins vehemently playing on the background while you fire off muskets in the desert?
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Well. Let’s keep it at “I gave it a go” in the beginning of the early ‘90’s, but eventually didn’t make the cut.
But if I where in my early 20s, or could go back in time, I would definitely do some preparation to make it easier on myself.
Weird thing is that I still have a couple of contacts from back then. One British guy who eventually made it, and another one with an Algerian guy from Marseille.
With the latter I spend two months in France, and eventually we got into another field, mainly shipping hardware. But that’s a completely different story.
Sorry to disappoint you and not being able to tell that I’m a proud owner of a Képi Blanc.
overdrive2016
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There's no such thing as being a loser. Only how much you judge/berate/accept yourself.
You call yourself a loser because you feel you don't live up to certain expectations.
Are those expectations helping you or harming you?
Most the time, it's the latter.
My point is you can spend another 17 years going around the same cycle or you can learn to accept yourself, even if you ARE a f*cking 'loser'. If you think you need xyz to then be happy, and then not hate yourself... that's wrong.
Sure, you can make some changes in your life, try to improve your social skills etc. but it all starts with attitude. Stop hating yourself even if you know you are right to hate yourself. This does NOT help.
Don't forget that.
Once you start accepting yourself, everything else will fall into place.
You call yourself a loser because you feel you don't live up to certain expectations.
Are those expectations helping you or harming you?
Most the time, it's the latter.
My point is you can spend another 17 years going around the same cycle or you can learn to accept yourself, even if you ARE a f*cking 'loser'. If you think you need xyz to then be happy, and then not hate yourself... that's wrong.
Sure, you can make some changes in your life, try to improve your social skills etc. but it all starts with attitude. Stop hating yourself even if you know you are right to hate yourself. This does NOT help.
Don't forget that.
Once you start accepting yourself, everything else will fall into place.
bumont
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1 - Self confidence/looks
- Sort your acne out first. To do this, follow a clean and healthy diet, be clinical and consistent with your skin care regime. If it's that serious, use Accutane. There are risks of course, but frankly if your quality of life is largely diminished by your acne, it may be worth it.
- Start working out with your new diet. You will be shocked at how being a low body fat and being in shape can change your facial looks. People have literally gone from being considered ugly to highly attractive just by doing this.
- Go to the barbers at least once every 2 weeks. Get your hair cut properly, find a style that suits you. Skin fade on the sides and styled on top can help improve the shape of your face
- Get some proper clothes. You don't need gucci/LV to look good. Look up on google how to dress properly. A good place to start in well fitted slim/skinny black jeans, black top and clean white trainers. You can work a lot around that. Being in better shape will make any clothes look better on you
- People treat you like shit if you look shit and don't take care of yourself, that's life. So fix that first and people will treat you better
- Knowing you look good, smell good and are working towards improving yourself will improve your attitude and outlook.
- You avoid social situations because you are not confident and have a bad attitude and, because of this, aren't probably fun to be around, so fix 1&2
- A huge portion of people are introverted, but that doesn't mean that sit in their room all day and rot. Introverts can be the centre of the party, outgoing, alpha etc but they are aware of their need to have solitude.
- Find a skill you can start developing through reading and online information, ideally something that has some market value. Coding, SEO, marketing, sales
- You can either ignore all the advice I've just myself and the other posters have contributed and say it's too hard or we're talking bull and things won't change or do something right now. Order a book on Amazon, get a gym membership, go get a haircut, go for a run - DO SOMETHING.
- You've probably heard this, but being 17 is a awful age, especially for a man (which I'm assuming you are). I was like you as a teenager, socially awkward, no drive, face and body looked terrible, but I realised nobody was going to save me and did something.
haroune fahl
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just FAP and everything will seem good again
jazzc
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aidenhera
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i think you mean nofap. faping is like free drugs because it releases dopamine without any effort which should be released for achievments only.
you do it few times a week then get depressed because normal daily events bring you less pleasure than they should
jazzc
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Disappoint? I'd say the opposite. I can only express admiration that you even tried to go there on your own will.