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The Real #1 Reason Why 95% Of You Will Always Fail - No Matter How Hard You Try

Discussion in 'Making Money' started by peter2002, Feb 3, 2010.

  1. peter2002

    peter2002 Senior Member

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    Hi everyone,

    This is a rather long post. But please bear with me. I think this will be an eye-opener for many of you. But I also converted this post to a PDF file, so you can read it in peace and quiet whenever you like. You'll find the download link at the end of this post.

    So, and now let's dive in...

    The sad fact is that about 95% all people who go online to become an Internet Marketer will fail in the end. And they not only fail but lose a lot of money in the process!

    And all that happens despite the fact that the market is literally flooded with good ebooks, manuals, coaching, membership sites, (about list building, Google Adwords, traffic etc.) that were developed with only one goal in mind - to teach you the knowledge you need to become a successful marketer. And don't forget our great BHW forum with tons of good advice!

    But YOU still struggle to make things work for you.

    Right now you most probably belong to one of the following groups:

    1. You bought numerous Internet Marketing products (or downloaded them in the member download forum :)) and implemented all advice, tips and techniques in your own business. But no matter what you are doing you are just not achieving the good results you are hoping for. You have read all the testimonials and raving forum posts from other marketers who used the products with great success.
    But for you it's just not happening.

    2. You, too, bought every product out there. But instead of using them to start your own online business, you somehow never take any action towards actually building it. Yes, you have big dreams about it. Yes, you can imagine how thrilling it must be to live the Internet Lifestyle. Yes, you study and learn everything possible for hours a day. Yes, you know you should finally start -
    BUT you just don't do it. Something is always
    holding you back.


    3. You have some success already. You might even earn a 4 or 5 figure income already. But your dreams are much bigger than that. The only thing is, you hit some kind of plateau and you just don't get to the next level. You know you have the knowledge and determination
    but you are stuck with this level of income.

    There is a reason for it, and no matter at which point you said, "Yes, that's me," it's the same reason for everyone.

    It's the missing link for building the successful Internet business you are dreaming of.

    Are you curious what the missing link is?

    Let me start with telling you an eye-opening story ( I wrote and published this article years ago)...

    "Don't Act Like An Elephant!"

    Strange statement, isn't it?

    But listen carefully because it can make the difference of success and failure in your business and private life.

    So, let me explain...

    You might know that in India elephants are used for manual labor. But what to do with them when they are not working? How to restrain them?

    Their handlers came up with the idea to program them while they are still very young - by setting self-imposed limits into their thinking.

    How does it work?

    When the elephants are still small, weighing around 150 pounds, they get tied up with a very heavy rope.

    All day long, the elephants try to get rid of it, whine, tug at it and some of them even try to chew it. But they can't break free. Finally, the elephants give up and the fight is over.

    And now it's getting interesting...

    From this moment on, they strongly believe that there is absolutely no chance to get rid of the rope. They accept the
    "fact" that the rope limits them.

    And with this imprinted belief in place, their handlers are able to tie them with extremely small ropes!

    And even as adults, weighing 8,000 pounds and more, they never attempt to break free because they "know" they have no chance at all!

    As you can see, the elephants' limits are not real, but exist only in their mind.

    And so are we programmed with built-in-boundaries. They are also not real but exist only in our minds.

    But with these imprinted belief systems, with these inner boundaries, we are unable...

    - to live our lives to the fullest
    - to be as successful as we could be
    - to set and reach higher goals
    - to make 10 times more money as we do now
    - to build a successful business
    - to get the promotion and pay increase
    we always dreamed of
    - to fulfill our true dreams and desires

    The point is...

    Your Inner Belief Systems Will Make Or Break Your Business!

    Let me explain this with a simple 'White Hat' example...

    Let's say you are at a stage of your online business where you have built a list to a certain size. So far you didn't promote anything but put your efforts into building a relationship with your list members first by providing great content.

    But now you think you are ready to give it a shot. You heard about a great product and that marketers who promote this affiliate product achieve great results. For you it's a no-brainer to go for it as well.

    With your list size you expect ‘realistically' at least 10-15 sales. You put great efforts in creating a convincing email about the product - you hit the
    'send' button - and, instead of 10 or even more sales, you make only one.

    Depending on your existing inner beliefs one of two things will be happening...

    A. If you have any negative beliefs in regards of your business itself or your ability of running a business successfully, you'll experience thoughts like, "I can't understand why this is happening to me while everyone else and their dogs are doing great promoting this product; maybe I am simply not good enough to be successful as an Internet Marketer; maybe other marketers have better lists than I; I think the experts were right by telling me that my niche might be too competitive for a newbie to have a chance to make money." And so on...

    B. If your core beliefs regarding your business and your abilities in general are positive, you might have thoughts like, "I expected a little bit more, but hey, at least I made a sale at all; I am really grateful for it; I have accomplished something; I have to tell ...(spouse) about my success; I can hardly wait for the next email campaign; I expect even better results next time." And so on...

    A week later there is another opportunity to endorse a good product.
    If you were the first marketer (A), you don't feel that enthusiastic anymore but worry a little about the outcome already, but you still create a rock solid email message - you hit the ‘send' button - and there are no sales at all from your campaign.

    Now you doubt yourself even more. Your feeling of being a failure is deepening. You now really believe that something is wrong with your list. You think you entered your market too late to make any significant profit, etc.

    And the worst thing that is happening, you are strengthening your already existing negative belief system! And that will make sure that you'll go the road leading to more and more disappointments and bad outcomes. And finally you'll quit and will be convinced Internet Marketing is just not for
    you.

    A damaging belief, no matter if lying open in your mind or buried deeply inside, will always sabotage a possible positive outcome, no matter how hard you try!

    If you were the second marketer (B), you feel great while crafting your endorsement email. You are relaxed and grateful for the chance to make some profit again.

    You feel highly motivated, and you expect even better results this time - you hit the ‘send' button - and (drum rolls, please :)) you made 4 sales this time.

    You feel even more grateful. Your feeling of accomplishment is deepening. Your self-confidence is rising. And, most importantly, you are strengthening your already existing positive belief that will support you in everything you are going to do from here on.

    From this moment on you are on the road to success not only in email marketing but in all areas of your business. Your positive belief, your ability to feel grateful for even small victories (sales) and your positive expectation will get you more and more things, results and circumstances you can be grateful for.

    Because it is so important to understand I want to repeat it one more time.

    The chances for the first marketer are slim to none to make any significant profit with his/her business. The negative belief system that is controlling his or her life will always sabotage the chance for big, long lasting success.

    Bottom line: your perception of yourself is the vital key to your success.It's because of self-imposed limits. Your inner boundaries will always sabotage true, long-lasting success - no matter what you do, no matter how hard you try.

    So, I hope you now have something to think about.

    Please let me know your opinion!

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  2. dungxvn

    dungxvn Junior Member

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    I find myself an Indian Elephant :)
     
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  3. inspireduk

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    Can you share how to identify these self limiting beliefs and how to remove them?
     
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  4. peter2002

    peter2002 Senior Member

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    A little bit off topic, but whatever makes you happy...:)
     
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  5. Radico

    Radico Newbie

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    You have the main concept very right, its because of this kind of thinking many people do not get what they really want in life and its not their fault, they just dont know any better. I read a few books about similar philosophies but not exactly the same.

    If anyone's interested, "Think and Grow Rich", even though its a very old book is incredible for helping you develop the right mindset. Great post since this board is incredible of entrepreneurs.

    Code:
    http://www.pathway-to-success.com/tgr.html
     
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  6. AgentOrange_MkUltra

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    I m not checking all the post and the external link, but you are quite right about the fact that convincing other people and yourself about being capable, reliable and winning makes contributes for 50% about making you successful. Expressing charisma and professionalism persuades people - this is the marketing.

    The other 50% about success relies on the product itself - you must be capable, expert and efficient for real. This 50% is to persuade computers, robots, machines, and to achieve in general what you promise.
     
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    Gradimir Stankovic Power Member

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    Story about elephant is really great, eye-openner :)
     
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  8. workingwhileworking

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    You MUST have someone to tell you what to do or not do.

    You MUST have a college degree.

    You MUST have an authority figure to tell you what to do and not do.

    You MUST get up most mornings and work a "regular" job.

    You MUST be unsatisfied with your life when other people are unsatisfied with it.


    lol you ever think about why you even wear clothes? It's not to keep you warm or dry 80% of the time. It's because instilled belief makes you feel funny without them.

    That story the TS wrote, I'll make it a sharper image for you: That's the same way they train lions and tigers for the circus. They show them who's boss when they're cubs. We all have this done to us. No lie.


    Hell, if someone were to give you a simple box with a red button on it and told you that all you had to do to get paid 500k a year was to push that button once an hour, 8 hours a day... a lot of people wouldn't do it. They'd fuck it up. Because it sounds too easy. They'd be scared of what would happen if they pushed it. You're programmed to trade time, health and labor for a wage.

    Meanwhile, the dude that's giving away boxes will be like "why the fuck is no one taking these boxes? Oh well, guess I'll keep pushing these buttons myself."

    That's money in a nutshell.
     
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  9. hevindester

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    Frankly, I can't stomach this krishnamurti-esqe bullshit.

    Real-world, consistent success, is achieved through extensive critical analysis.

    If you are currently failing in IM, it is because you are not being thorough in your attention to detail.

    I believe you are touching on a valid aspect of this, in speaking about self-limiting beliefs. But the how and why this effects peoples' success is complete non-sense. The "magic power of belief" cannot alter any fundamental principle.

    For example, no matter what you believe about gravity, if you jump off a cliff, you will always fall. This has nothing to do with self-limiting beliefs in our ability to fly.

    Where I see the concept of "self-limitation" being useful, is in our fear of protecting our fragile egos, being unwilling to reveal our vulnerabilities and imperfections, and observing our strategies and methods of implementation, critically.

    Do we have a clear goal set?

    What strategies are we going to utilize?

    How will we measure their effectiveness?

    Every element must be substantiated. Anything left to our imaginations will always fail, sooner or later.

    Ultimately, are we willing to pay the price to learn?

    And when you do fail - are you going to be "big enough" to own it? In the beginning, most failures are due to ignorance - you're new to the game, so you learn as you go. But eventually, once you have the tools and the experience, the only thing holding you back is laziness.

    Laziness begets Sloppy Performance.

    Sloppy planning, sloppy execution, sloppy metrics, just being sloppy all around.

    Its what separates the Surgeons from the Butchers.

    Both make a living cutting flesh, but ones paycheck is a whole lot bigger.
     
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  10. peter2002

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    @hevindester: I don't mind that you think this is bullshit. But please notice that the important role 'core beliefs' play in your life and business is proven scientific fact. And your remarks like... "Do we have a clear goal set? What strategies are we going to utilize? How will we measure their effectiveness?" are all valid. BUT you'll only reach your goals IF you believe so at a deep subconscious level.
     
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    nice post , I believe in what you are saying; there are just to many ppl that give up to soon or don't believe in themselves hard enough. A positive attitude and believe in yourself that's the key to succes
     
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    Anyone care to summarize that into a sentence or two, lost me around the

    ;)
     
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    You are right, and there would be even way more to say about this topic. But I had to simplify. Otherwise that would have been an ebook instead of a forum post.
     
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    I believe in positive thinking, but that alone isn't going to conjure up sales and have the money rolling in. Its a great, feel good story, but thats all it is...a story. It got you what you wanted, which was, people to check out your thread. Its rubbish. not a lick of any real content in the entire op. ill tell you why 95% of people fail. It's a combination of laziness, stupidity and simply being unlucky. they were to lazy to do something right, or at all, they were to ignorant to understand what they were doing, of if something didn't go right, they don't know how to tweak or fix it, and its the luck of the draw. you might have 100k emails but if that group of people (even though its quite large) get the emails, they might not like the product, or had a bad day and deleted all there emails. you never know. There is no magic program, marketing tool, or feel good method to get you to the top, its a combination of hard work, know-how and good ol' fashioned luck.
     
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    great post... I can relate this to another subject matter for the people who believe "positive thinking" and "inner beliefs" are all bullshit. Many guys have "approach anxiety" and can not approach a good looking woman on the street. Reason being is because of the limited beliefs they were taught when they were brought up. Don't talk to strangers, don't interrupt somebody, it's rude to stare, etc.. Same concept. If you don't believe me, next time you see a hot girl, try walking up to them and talk to them. I'm pretty sure most guys can't even do it... You can learn a lot from the PUA's because they teach you how to get rid of limited-beliefs and you can build a new belief system that can carry over into business and IM.
     
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    Ugh, another positive thinking post? Of course it's true, but ehhhh its a dead horse to me.
     
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    First of all I would like to say, "Nice job Peter"

    I like to refer to an old adage whenever doubt attempts to cross my mind...

    Whether you think you can, or think you can't... YOU ARE RIGHT!
     
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    I somewhat agree with the OP.

    I think you need to keep in mind that's it is more than just our perception of ourselves.

    For example, I have a full time job and a gf. This gives me far less time to do IM than somebody who is jobless with no life. If I had this kind of time, I would be far more successful at it, but I just do now. I come home after work and I am fuck tired and just want to watch TV shows and what not.

    I know I need to make the sacrifice, but it is very difficult. I don't think it has anything to do with my perception of myself, it just has to do with not having the stamina and the time.
     
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  19. goodtimes

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    I found what the OP says to be very true. The other thing I would add is that you need to focus on 1 project at a time and try to get creative with it. I used to try and keep 4 or 5 projects going at a time and they all inevitably had poor results.
     
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    i prob eat as much as an elephant but i do belong in that group where i expected to make a lot more then what i am but still satisified that i know it will keep rising (my income)