Ok, so I put this up earlier today:
Anyway, I started thinking. It is midnight here and the clock just turned to “March 14” – three years ago today my Dad lost a nasty battle with cancer. It was the hardest day of my life. There isn’t a day that goes by that I do not think about him. He was self employed and worked his ass off – and he always told me, “Son, never work for anyone but yourself. Find what you love and turn it into a career. You will be much more happy.”
…but he also told me that it wouldn’t be perfect…he made me fully aware that it would be more work than the 9 – 5 office jockey working a desk job in corporate America. When the clock strikes 5 on a Friday they are out of there with no worries about the operation…they don’t turn their mind back into “work mode” until Monday morning at 9am.
As I sit here and reflect on some of the best days of my life with him I wanted to share 5 things that he taught me at an early age and continued to reinforce as I grew up. Hopefully they make sense and can help some people. So, here we go…
#1: YOU ARE GOING TO FAIL. This is unavoidable, and you may fail 3,4,5….6…or more times before you “make it” and for this reason 99.9999% of people will give up. They will get knocked down the first time and give up. Then the second failure will weed the numbers down more. Show me someone that failed multiple times but got right back up – and that is someone that has what it takes to become successful.
#2: DO NOT TAKE ADVICE FROM OTHERS THAT DO NOT HAVE THE SAME MINDSET. Would you take advice from someone who is content working a crappy job for $50k a year? Ever hear, “you should get a real job” before? Ignore those people. We can’t all be rock stars. The world needs janitors and waiters. Let them be, but never take advice from them or let them influence your dreams.
#3: DON’T BE SCARED! Every amazing idea has started as a dream and vision. Those that were not scared to take chances and risks are the ones that turned their dreams into reality. You don’t stand a chance if you aren’t willing to take a chance. Life is too short to waste time. If you want something, go after it. Now. Not tomorrow, not the next day.
#4: SURROUND YOURSELF WITH WINNERS. If you have negative people in your life get rid of them. Right now. They are hurting you in many ways. Surround yourself with successful people and you too will become successful. Don’t be afraid to cut ties and sever relationships. It is for your own benefit.
#5: UNDERSTAND IT IS NOT GOING TO BE EASY. Nothing is easy and it is going to be hard. Very freaking hard. You will have sleepless nights. You will work weekends. People see the guy driving a Lambo and say that they want that life BUT they aren’t willing to do what he did to get there. The sacrifices. The chances. If they knew what he endured to “make it” the average person would instantly not want that lifestyle.
My dad emphasized these 5 points to me all the time and I will never forget them.
RIP Dad – Miss you.