hey guys i have had a acount for a couple years now and never used it, and now reading everyone success, i would like to get set up if anyone could help me out, guide me threw it please pm me, i would like to promote some products

It's all pretty self explanatory but if you look on youtube there are some good guides on there. As well as many threads around the forum on this topic

I have question about referer.
Does Clickbank sees source of traffic or vendor?

yes
clickbanks sees source of traffic and vendor
you don't do any fake

then I should I redirect through my site

use blog to promote your product
do some networking,seo work of blog to promote your product