So,

I ,like I am sure most of you, often are checking where I rank. I have given up sing my own browser as whether or not I am logged into my account or not I see wildly different results then what SERP checkers show me.

Also When I scrape Google with Scrapebox for my keyword I get hugely different results.

These are the 2 SERP checkers I use now aside from Scrapebox.

Code:

http://sitemapdoc.com/Serp-Rank.aspx

Code:

http://www.seoserp.com/web_tools/google_pagerank_checker/google_serp_report.asp

Is there a site or software I should be using instead? I want to see what everyone else sees. Not what I want to see. WHAT DO YOU USE?

Yes, different IPs, browsers, locations, time of day will all give you different results for some keywords. This is the natural cycling and is part of Google testing. If you've ever noticed in GWT they show you an average position like 2.8 for a keyword.

Your not the only one dog.
They aint that accurate sometimes, manual checking is the best.