as a fellow porn site webmaster I have this problem from time to time too....

submit your site anyway even if they have a "no adult content" rule. You'd be surprised how many sites don't have the manpower to enforce all the rules. the worst that happens is that you dont get your content through or its takin down.....

plus when your content goes through you'd be even more surprised on how many hits you get because you ignored there rules, chanced it, and got through....now your one of the few that has content EVERYONE likes (even if they dont admit it) on a site where it shouldnt be